The initial attraction was overwhelming; you met a man, the chemistry was fantastic and now you are having regular sleepovers. But is the relationship going anywhere? If you are looking for a long-term commitment it is best to answer that question sooner rather than later.
The first sign of a dead end relationship is that it never moves out of your homes. You don’t go out in public together, you haven’t met each other’s friends and you certainly haven’t met each other’s families. If he doesn’t want you to develop relationships with his friends and family he has no intention of having a serious relationship with you.
Some men will take you out in public and introduce you to their friends but still have no intentions of committing to you. (If he’s a player it’s likely that his friends are well aware of it, and used to him bringing random women around.) Does your man seem distracted or distant when you’re out, then lavish attention on you later during sex? If he only pays attention to you in bed, he isn’t looking for a commitment.
Another sign that your relationship is going nowhere is your partner refusing to plan for anything more than a week or two in advance. When you ask him to join you for something months away he says something noncommittal like “We’ll see,” and then changes the subject. He doesn’t want to make long-term plans because he has no intention of being in a long-term relationship.
Sometimes it is best to just go with the flow and let it take its own course, the key is to be accepting of this and know that there truly are plenty other fish in the sea. If you want to give it one last boost, you may add a bit of spice to your sex life – this has the power to leave him tantalised, renewed and craving for more of you. Spark it up with some new lingerie, light BDSM play or just the simple act of buying him a vibrating cockring to use together.
If you are wanting to spice up the relationship at the hope of rebooting it – then I recommend shopping online for a more discreet shopping experience.